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Holding It All Together-Mean

By Amy McCollom
I thought about writing on this topic for a long time now. Last week when the bathrooms at Ervin Park got vandalized was the icing on the cake for me. My family and I were not the only ones who felt the outrage, but the entire community and surrounding area. We all felt violated in some way. That was our county park. Our kids and grandkids, nieces and nephews, neighbors and friends all play and relax at that park. To have the bathrooms torn to shreds like that was an attack on all of us. 

I’m just glad that the guilty parties have been apprehended and the park restrooms will be repaired.

We have been lucky. We haven’t had to live through riots like Detroit, Chicago, St. Louis, or even parts of Champaign of late. We haven’t had mindless destruction of property and loss of businesses to the great extent that these larger communities have had to endure. But we did get a taste of it. Imagine the full Monty.

Mean. Why do people have to be so mean? Reminds me of the Taylor Swift song of the same name, “Mean.”

My daughter works at a fast-food restaurant, and although she is learning a lot about people, which is a useful thing to know, I was surprised to learn how mean people are to her. That part doesn’t make me happy at all. She is there to do a job, yet people drive through and are so completely rude to her, I am amazed at the gall of them! No one seems to have manners anymore! It’s not just about saying please and thank you; we are way past that. People throw their money at her. People argue with her about the price of the food. People even complain that tax shouldn’t be charged on the food because that is false advertising if the sign lists a price and then tax is added later. Makes me wonder if they ask that in every store, because adding sales tax is nothing new in Illinois.

I was surprised to find out that it wasn’t younger people who were rude to her. In fact, she said that 75 percent of elderly people that she interacts with are rude and mean. I told her to try and be patient, because old people probably don’t feel good and that can make anyone a little grumpy. But when I got to thinking about it, no, she was right. Nothing ever gives us the right to be mean to someone. The Bible is clear about that. We are to treat everyone with love and respect. Remember the Golden Rule? Yeah, it’s Biblical.

So why do you have to be so mean? Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. See both sides. And keep your hands to yourself. Act like adults.

Putin, why do you have to be so mean? Why do you need more and more and more land? Did you not get enough hugs as a child? Palestinians? Same questions to you? Dictators around the world? Lighten up! Why do you all have to be so mean? Fear is not the same as respect. The only good fear is the fear of God, and that is a Godly fear, for we should know how powerful and mighty that God is, and with that knowledge we should want to obey and please Him. If God be for us, who can be against us? I sure wouldn’t want to be on the wrong side of God. I count Him as my friend. And if God is with me, and I am with God, then the love of God dwells inside of me. Love is perfect and is not mean. Love heals. In short, mean people need God and love. 

Share God, and share love, and let’s turn these mean people into good loving people. Pray for them. It’s God’s perfect plan. And if you are a mean person, knock it off.

This reminds me of an old Irish blessing:

May those who love us, love us.

And those who don’t love us,

May God turn their hearts.

And if He doesn’t turn their hearts,

May He turn their ankles,

So we will know them by their limping.

God bless you, spread the love, and be nice. Especially to my daughter.

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